It seems like everybody has something to say about dating, especially as we get older. There are so many conversations around how dating is different after 50, what you should say, what’s an automatic deal-breaker. But one thing people don’t often talk about is what it’s actually like to go through all of this. Here’s how women really feel about dating after 50:
- Frustrated. Statistically, the numbers are on men’s side. Women tend to live longer than men (so, at least there’s that!), which means that as we get older, there are more women than men. Which is not necessarily a bad thing. What is a bad thing, however, is that this allows men to be pickier and even more wishy-washy. That means women have to be even more forthright about their feelings and work just a little bit harder to stand out from the crowd.
- Skeptical. It shouldn’t come as much of a surprise that skepticism plays a part in how women really feel about dating after 50. The entire dating world has changed since most of us were last on the market. For many, it’s easy to feel uncomfortable about online dating, but that shouldn’t be the case! There are just as many weirdos in real life as there are on dating apps — they’re just harder to filter out in real life. Online dating has the usual dating risks, like wondering whether someone is truly single or if they’ll ever call you back, with a few additional ones too. People tend to exaggerate certain details on their dating profiles, like their height, weight, or salary. You’ll sort out the height and weight lies fairly quickly, but it’s most important to keep an open mind. A little skepticism can be healthy, but don’t let it stand in your way! The right guy could be waiting for you, you might just have to look an inch or two lower than you were expecting.
- Confident. One great thing about how women really feel about dating after 50? We’re no longer our 20 year old selves, trying to figure out who we are and what we should be doing with our lives. We’ve moved on from those stages and are finally our true, adult selves. We’ve gained enough experience to know what we’re looking for, what we enjoy, and what we want from dating. And we also have a sense of what men our age are looking for, so we can feel confident knowing we still have everything they want in a partner. Are we perfect? No. But we know who we are and all we can do now is look for things to make us happy. What’s not to feel confident about?
- Hopeful. We’re not looking to necessarily get married again. So, when it comes to dating later in life, how women really feel is hopeful. We’re hopeful we’ll be able to find someone nice to spend time with. If we’re open to finding someone to share in experiences with and enjoy what life has to offer, we’ll be happy. That’s all there is to it.