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What To Expect For Your First Thanksgiving With Your Significant Other

asdnmaipn - November 22, 2017

What To Expect For Your First Thanksgiving With Your Significant Other

Spending your first Thanksgiving with your significant other can be intimidating. It’s nerve-wracking if you’re meeting their family for the first time, or if they’re meeting yours. To make your first holiday together a bit easier, here are some homecoming tips:

Find out who you’re meeting. If you can get a sense of who’ll be at the table with you, and what they’re interests are, it’ll make conversation easier. And the better you are at holding a conversation with them, the more easily you’ll bond with your partner’s family members.
Skip the small talk. If you’re not good at chatting like that, just offer to help out in the kitchen. Or, if there are kids, join in with whatever they’re doing. This way, you’re still doing something valuable, and it seems like you’re family-oriented. And you don’t even have to spend your first Thanksgiving with your significant other making idle chit-chat.
Make alone time for yourselves. It can be hard to break away from the family during your first Thanksgiving with your significant other, but it’s worth it. Even though you want to spend time with their family and get to know them, it’s nice to have that one-on-one time to know that you have a place in their lives, too.
Play it safe. You and your partner may have bonded over your political views, but that doesn’t mean everyone in their family shares them. Since you want to make a good impression, avoid topics that could be controversial, and follow the family’s lead.
Support each other. Spending the holidays together can either bring a couple closer together or tear them apart. Focus on enjoying Thanksgiving together. Put in a little extra effort to make sure you’re in tune with your partner, and make sure you support each other. Remember, you’re in this together!

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Aging

How To Survive Your First Post-Divorce Thanksgiving

asdnmaipn - November 22, 2017

How To Survive Your First Post-Divorce Thanksgiving

Your first post-divorce Thanksgiving can be a particularly heart-wrenching experience. Last year, your family was together around the table, but this year, everything is different. Here’s how you can keep your sanity and survive the holiday season this year.

Don’t think about how thing were. Instead, think of how you’d like things to be now, and take steps to make sure that happens. It will be difficult, and you’ll find yourself feeling sad as you think about memories from previous years. This can be painful, but instead of thinking about your pre-divorce Thanksgiving traditions, start making new ones. Spend time with your family, your friends, or volunteer in a soup kitchen. Now is a time for new traditions.
Surround yourself with support. Whether it’s friends or family, find the people you don’t have to worry about being a Debbie Downer with. But don’t spend the entire holiday weekend moping around feeling bitter either! Find a shoulder to lean on, if you need it, and focus on getting in the holiday mood. The support of your loved ones will show you this isn’t the end of the world.
Release your bitterness. If you have children, it can be hard to spend your first post-divorce Thanksgiving working out the scheduling. But, whatever you do, don’t let your ex make you angry. And don’t complain about them — especially not to or in front of your children. That’s still their parent, and you don’t want to make them feel unnecessary guilt for having to divide their time between the two of you. Bitterness will only hold you back.
Give thanks. It’s so easy, as you’re going through a divorce, to only focus on the negative. But that’s not what Thanksgiving is about! Make a list of the things you’re thankful for — whether they’re serious or silly, write them all out. It’ll probably be a longer list than you expected. Seeing everything you have in your life that you’re thankful for will help you stay positive throughout your first post-divorce Thanksgiving, and the rest of the holiday season.

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Pop Culture

7 Creative Recipes To Transform Your Thanksgiving Leftovers

asdnmaipn - November 22, 2017

These Are The Most Delicious Recipes For Thanksgiving Leftovers

Most of us love spending Thanksgiving in the company of family and loved ones, enjoying a beautiful meal. But not all of us enjoy eating the same meal again for the next week thanks to all those Thanksgiving leftovers. So, in order to help you make the most of things, we’ve found some of the most mouth-watering recipes to transform your Thanksgiving leftovers:

Make the perfect cold morning breakfast. A great way to put your Thanksgiving leftovers to use is start the next day with a nice, warm breakfast. Mix some leftover cranberry sauce in with your oatmeal or with your bagel’s cream cheese. It’s a sweet and colorful way to energize for Black Friday shopping!
Use cooked vegetables for an irresistible Thanksgiving stir-fry. Just chop them up, then fry them in oil. Add some cold, cooked rice, fold in some leftover turkey or ham, add a splash of soy sauce, and serve with a fried egg on top. It’s the perfect dish to accompany a holiday weekend movie night!
Turn mashed potatoes into pizza. This idea from Food Network is a brilliant way to turn Thanksgiving leftovers into a brilliant twist on white pizza!
Stay warm on cold nights with this turkey enchilada recipe. This is a creative way to use Thanksgiving ingredients in a way that tastes totally different. And your family will love it!
Transform leftover stuffing into waffles. This recipe is as simple as throwing leftover stuffing into a waffle maker. It’s that easy! Once you’ve made your waffles, use some cranberry sauce instead of syrup.
Satisfy your sweet tooth with these cranberry apple turnovers. Sure, you probably already ate too much dessert, but do you really want to waste those cranberries and apples? Of course not! So, treat yourself to these delicious treats.
Or just stick with the classic turkey pot pie. It’s warm, delicious, and everyone loves it. You can’t go wrong!

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6 Perfect Thanksgiving Weekend Activities To Do With Your Friends & Family

asdnmaipn - November 21, 2017

Perfect Thanksgiving Weekend Activities To Do With Friends & Family

Finding the perfect Thanksgiving weekend activities for your friends and family to enjoy can be difficult. How do you find something everyone can enjoy? For some of us, we’re just trying to survive the entire weekend with our annoying uncle or our sister’s toddlers. If you’re looking for a relaxing, enjoyable way to spend your Thanksgiving weekend, we’ve got you covered.

Take a hike. There’s no better way to undo the damages of a Thanksgiving binge than good ol’ fashioned exercise! One of our favorite Thanksgiving weekend activities with friends and family is hiking. Even though it might be a little late for stunning foliage, a Thanksgiving weekend hike is one of your last chances to enjoy the autumn weather. Get the family together and take a nice stroll, burn off those calories, and take a photo! If anything, you’ll work up an appetite for all those Thanksgiving leftovers! But if you’re not looking for something active…
Just go to the movies!
Looking for some Thanksgiving weekend activities that’ll get you out of the house, but still be lazy? There are so many great movies in theaters now, you’ll really only have to worry about deciding on which to see. If you’re looking for a movie everyone (including kids) can enjoy, consider Pixar’s Coco or even Thor: Ragnarok. For those of you who want to get in early on the Oscar race, consider Lady Bird, Darkest Hour, or Call Me By Your Name. If you just want to watch something fun, there’s always Murder on the Orient Express!
…or just watch one at home. If you don’t feel like leaving the house, don’t worry. There are even more movies to watch on platforms like Netflix, Amazon, and Hulu to keep everyone happy all weekend long. Not a streamer? Some TV channels are scheduling killer content for the weekend, like AMC’s Thanksgiving Day Godfather marathon. Or, you could choose from Netflix’s critically acclaimed new movie Mudbound or modern classics like Moonrise Kingdom, Pocahontas, and Field of Dreams. The best part? You could do this every night, after any of the Thanksgiving weekend activities you decide to do!
Get a head start on holiday activities! Some of our favorite Thanksgiving weekend activities are things that actually look ahead to the next holiday season. Whether you decide to go ice-skating with friends or start decorating for the upcoming holiday season, there’s no better way to inject some joy into a weekend with family.
Or just get a head start on holiday shopping. Who needs Thanksgiving weekend activities when there’s Black Friday sales?! This year, there are HUGE sale on everything from electronics to clothing. Whether you’re looking for a new TV or an Amazon Echo, or just a video game for a nephew, there’s a sale that’ll catch your eye. See a list of some of the best deals here.
Catch up on new (and old!) TV shows. It can be hard to decide on a movie together as a family, but television can be a bit easier. In addition to TV networks scheduling great marathons of classic shows (like Friends, The Simpsons, Law & Order: SVU, and Diner, Drive-In, & Dives), Thanksgiving weekend is the perfect time to catch up on all you’ve missed. Whether you decide to finally watch the new season of Stranger Things, or just catch up on The Crown or binge Gilmore Girls again, there’s no better way to bring people together for delightful, lazy weekend afternoons.

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Dating Over 50

This Is The Best Dating Advice For Women To Follow, According To Men

asdnmaipn - November 16, 2017

Here's The Best Dating Advice For Women From Men

When it comes to dating, most of us wish we had someone to tell us exactly what we should be doing. It’s much more helpful to hear tips from the opposite sex about what they want from a date. Well, ladies, you’re in luck. We’ve compiled some of the best dating advice for women from men that we could find.

Don’t expect the nicest restaurant. Setting your expectations too high is one of the worst ways to approach a first date. He might take you to a dive bar, just to see how you react. Whatever you do, keep an open mind, and don’t let any expectations you had ruin the actual date. It could be one of the best of your life!
Start fresh. Forget everything you Googled about them, or forget whatever your friends have told you. One of the most fun parts of dating someone is getting to know them! Let that happen. If you ask your friends to tell you everything about him before you’ve met, you could have a tainted perspective.
Don’t talk about your ex. If the topic comes up, you can mention your ex. But don’t bring them into the conversation if you don’t have to. One piece of dating advice for women that a LOT of men seem to have? If you can’t make it through the date without bringing up your ex, it sends the message that you’re not over the past.
Offer to pay, or to split the check. Offering doesn’t mean you’ll have to do it, and it shows your date that you’re genuinely interested in spending time with them, instead of just being wined and dined.
Say what you mean. Many men offer this piece of dating advice for women, feeling that women tend to expect guys to read between the lines, then feel disappointed that they didn’t. Be honest. If you’re specific about what you want, you’ll avoid causing unnecessary stress.
Have a conversation. This might sound like obvious dating advice for women before going on a date, but many men feel this way. It’s exhausting to be the only one talking on a date. The burden shouldn’t all fall on one person, so ask questions and show interest. And, remember, don’t monopolize the conversation by being the only one talking.
Express gratitude. Many women like when men hold the door open for them on dates. And guess what? Men love when women say thank you for holding the door open! A little gratitude can go a long way.

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Dating Over 50

5 Things You Should Know Before Dating A Divorced Man

asdnmaipn - November 15, 2017

5 Things You Should Know Before Dating A Divorced Man

When dating someone new, we all bring our pasts into the future with us, whether we want to or not. When dating a divorced man, it’s no different. Except, he might have an ex who is still in the picture, he could still be recovering emotionally, or he could have kids. But that’s not necessarily a bad thing. Going through a divorce can make people more mature, bringing their experiences to new relationships. Keeping an open mind and an understanding heart is essential when dating a divorced man. Here’s some advice on what you can expect as you move forward with him:

Be certain you’re dating a divorced man, not a separated one. There’s a big difference between someone who is divorced and someone who is in the process of getting divorced. One of them is still married! If you’re dating someone who is technically still married, you’re putting yourself in a bad spot. There’s a good chance he won’t be able to give you his full attention or commitment. Or worse, he could still go back to his wife. If he’s not divorced, he’s not for you.
Move slowly. This goes for any relationship, really, since you should always get to know someone before getting too serious. But, if you’re dating a divorced man, try to find out what went wrong in his previous relationship. Be understanding, and don’t force him into discussing things that might still be too painful for him. Find out what you can, though, to make sure that he’s not repeating the past with you.
Make sure fighting with (and for) the ex is over. If you’re dating a divorced man who spends all of his time fighting with his ex, he won’t be in a good mental state for a relationship with you. Fighting with his ex will create residual anger that he might take out on you. Or worse, if he’s fighting for his ex, you’re just a rebound or a distraction until he gets what he wants. Date someone who wants you.
Be clear about your expectations. You’re coming into his life at a time of great transition, so don’t be surprised if he’s not looking to get remarried right away. If marriage is a top priority for you, make sure to be clear about that. Both of you need to express your desires and expectations for the relationship early on. It’ll help you both realize what you want from the relationship, and you’ll avoid disappointment in the future. Whatever you do, don’t push him into settling down. If you can envision a future where you’re happy with him, without ever settling down, stick with it.
Don’t rush into meeting his children. No matter how badly you’d like to meet his kids, this is a decision that should always be left to him and his children. If you seem to eager to meet them, it could be seen as inconsiderate or like you’re trying too hard.

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Dating Over 50

6 Pieces of Bad Dating Advice You Should Stop Listening To

asdnmaipn - November 14, 2017

Don't Listen To Bad Dating Advice

If you’re single, you’ve probably heard every piece of dating advice imaginable. It seems everyone is an expert, and they’re all just dying to share their wisdom with you in order to rescue from being single. The problem is that, since everyone thinks they know best, a lot of bad dating advice actually gets passed around. Don’t listen to someone’s dating advice just because they’re married or in a relationship. In reality, there’s some dating advice that’s just plain bad. Here are a few examples, so you can know what to ignore:

Don’t get your hopes up. One piece of dating advice that everyone always offers is not to get too excited. The logic here is that you only know the basics about a person before going on a first date, so don’t project all your hopes and dreams onto this person. But the truth is, that actually puts you into a negative mindset for a date. Negativity is one of the worst things for you when it comes to dating! So, get your hopes up. It’s better to be positive and motivated than to be negative. Besides, positive thoughts become positive actions.
Google your date first, so you’re not blindsided. It might seem like researching your date is the responsible thing to do. After all, you just don’t want to be shocked when you meet them! But the truth is that you’re taking away some of dating’s magic when you do this. Part of the joy of dating new people comes from these little discoveries — do you really want to rob yourself of that? It’s the same type of behavior that grows into snooping through a partner’s phone once you enter a relationship. Either you have to work on your ability to trust, or you’re already distrusting your date. Whichever the case may be, it’s a problem. So, don’t do the research on your laptop. Research your date by asking them questions, either on your date or on a dating app.
Just join ALL of the dating apps! The logic behind this dating advice is likely that, by spreading your digital presence on multiple platforms, you’re increasing your chances of finding what you’re looking for. And, while we can’t fault that logic, is just not how it works. There are many different dating sites, and they’re usually pretty clear about what they’re for. If you’re looking for a committed, long-term relationship, you’re only going to find disappointment by using a dating app that’s for casual encounters. Instead of joining them all, know what you’re looking for, and find the dating app that’s best for your interests.
Play hard to get. For some reason, this piece of dating advice seems to come most often from those who are not single. Single people know too well that playing games is NEVER a good idea when it comes to dating! If you value honesty, you need to live honestly in order to attract an honest person. Be direct, and be yourself. You’re likely to turn someone off instead of seeming mysterious and aloof if you play hard to get.
You’ll know everything you need to know on the first date. Um, no. Dating advice like this ignores the fact that, sometimes, you won’t feel a spark until the 5th date with someone. But, if you’re enjoying their company and having a good time, why not give someone more of a chance than just one date? Not having the magic chemistry you expected isn’t a good enough reason to give up on something so quickly. Give them another chance!
You shouldn’t be so picky. Well, excuse us for having standards! When you know what you want, you should go after it. As we get older and as we date more, we learn more about what we like and what we can’t tolerate. This is actually helpful when you’re trying to find the right person (like the woman who hacked online dating). As long as you’re not ignoring people who don’t have every quality you want, you’re not being too picky.

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Online Dating Advice: These Are The Red Flags To Watch Out For

asdnmaipn - November 13, 2017

Online Dating Advice: These Are The Red Flags To Watch Out For

Online dating was supposed to make meeting people easier, but sometimes it feels like it’s just presented a new set of challenges. But, just like dating in person, it’s just a matter of filtering out the good people from the not-so-good people. And believe us, the good ones are out there. Luckily, the bad ones usually reveal themselves pretty early on, so you can avoid them once you know what to look for. In order to better read the red flags, here’s some of the best online dating advice we’ve found for what to be cautious of:

There are no clear pictures of them. While it’s always a good idea to include photos that show your hobbies and interests, it’s never a good sign if someone only has photos of them that are out of focus. You may be inclined to give them the benefit of the doubt. Maybe they don’t have a camera or just couldn’t find a photo they liked! That’s why they only have photos in Halloween costumes, wearing sunglasses, or from behind on top of a mountain. Any of these could be true — but it’s up to you to decide if it’s worth the gamble. A sound piece of online dating advice? If it seems like they’re hiding something (like their face), they just might be.
They send a message that seems like they send it to everyone. Well, they probably do. Many people follow the online dating advice of crafting one message to send to everyone they’re interested in. While there’s nothing wrong with this, ask yourself: are you willing to accept the minimum? Someone who’s truly interested in you will make some effort to get to know you. Think of all of the other people receiving the exact same message. Wouldn’t you prefer someone who begins a relationship by making it personal?
They completely ignored your profile. Is there anything worse than someone who blatantly ignores your preferences? It sends the message that what they want is more important than what you want. If you write that you’re looking for someone local or who doesn’t smoke, but you get a message from someone on the other side of the country or with a cigarette hanging out of their mouth… you should just ignore them, obviously. They’re not what you’re looking for. But that’s also the type of person you shouldn’t make an exception for. They’re only interested in what they want.
There are too many demands on their profile. We all have expectations and standards when it comes to dating. But do we always get all of the things on our list? No. So, when someone lists unreasonable demands on their profile, consider it a red flag. Beyond the understandable feelings on dating smokers or people with children, listing salary or weight requirements crosses a line. If they have phrases like “I need” or “I won’t tolerate” right on their profile, keep browsing. Who wants to begin a relationship with someone whose expectations already seem impossible to live up to?
They’re not quite available. Whether they keep hesitating to meet in person, or they can only talk on the phone at certain times of day, staying distant is a bad sign. If a person is struggling to take your relationship from online dating offline, they could just be nervous. Or they could be hiding something. Or they might not be as single as they say they are. Whatever their reasons, don’t keep wasting your time with someone who isn’t actually trying to be in a relationship. There are more productive things to do with your time, like speaking with someone who’s interested in dating you.

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Dating Over 50

How You Treat Your Ex Says A Lot About You — Here’s What You Need To Know

asdnmaipn - November 9, 2017

How You Treat Your Ex Says A Lot About You

After a break-up, it’s difficult to find a good way to treat your ex. Whether you’re completely moving on with your life or calling to beg for forgiveness, everything we do affects our ex. How you treat your ex also says more about you than you might even realize. The way someone treats the person they like least (or who has hurt them) speaks volumes — and it could even affect your ability to date moving forward.

Do you have a “crazy” ex? If you don’t want to talk about your “crazy” ex, that may be because you’re still hurting from it. Even worse, it might mean that you don’t have any valid explanation for why they’re “crazy” after all. The best thing to do in this situation, especially when speaking to new partners, is to focus on what first attracted you to your ex. By placing less emphasis on the crazy and focusing more on the positive, you’ll be able to express what you value in a partner. Otherwise, this new partner might just fear they’ll become your next crazy ex.
Do you not talk about your ex, ever? If you don’t want to talk about your ex at all, things are a bit better than the “crazy” ex scenario. Wanting to avoid discussions of the past could mean that you’re mature enough to not label your ex as crazy or that you take some responsibility for the relationship as well. Maybe you’re shy, embarrassed, or just really hoping for a fresh start. This is also totally understandable — some break-ups can be so difficult that it takes time for us to begin trusting others again. Be careful though! While this vulnerable state is understandable, if you’re never willing to discuss your ex with a new partner, it might send the message that you’re not their ideal emotional connection or are still uncomfortable trusting them.
Do you find someone new right away? Rebounding from one relationship to another seems like it makes sense, as you’re just trying to replace whatever it is you’ve lost. But the truth is, you’re just setting yourself up for disappointment. By trying to fill the void, you’re moving on to someone for who you want them to be, not who they are. Rebounding could also be a sign that you’re trying to get your ex back, or that you’re trying to prove you’ve gotten over things, even if you haven’t. This sort of behavior can be self-destructive. If you want to get back together, rebounding to inspire jealousy is the wrong way to treat your ex. And if you just want to prove that you’ve “won” the break-up by moving on quickly, it isn’t fair to the new person. This sort of behavior doesn’t free you from the bad relationship, but binds you to it. You’re only behaving this way because of your ex.
Do you keep talking about it? You’re probably not over it. It’s as simple as that. There are still many things for you to work through, even if you claim you’re over it. This is totally normal, and hopefully you have a great support system to work you through this. Speak with them about whatever emotions you’re feeling as you work through the break-up. But keep in mind, this might not be the best time to start dating again. Wait until you’re fully ready, and until you’re able to converse about things other than the break-up and your ex, before putting yourself back out there again.

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Dating Over 50

How To Get Over Your Ex As Quickly As Possible

asdnmaipn - November 9, 2017

Here's How To Get Over Your Ex As Fast As Possible

Anyone who has ever been through a break-up knows that one of the hardest things in the world can be to get over an ex. You know the relationship is over, yet you just can’t shake it. Every time you think you’re doing better, finally moving on, something happens to undo all the progress you’ve made. If this sounds like you, here are some things you can do to get over your ex fast:

Identify your anchors. Anchors are what keep us tied to our exes. Like shaking a bad habit, there are things we don’t realize trigger us until we try to quit. With an ex, it could be something as simple as hearing a song you’d bonded over or a place the two of you often went. These anchors make you associate them with your ex, reminding you of them, causing you pain. And they make it harder for you to get over your ex.
Break the association with anchors. If you grow to associate two things together, it feels odd when you’re presented with just one of those two things. For example, a restaurant you and your ex always went to together will feel empty if you go without them. In order to truly move on, you need to face these associations without thinking of your ex. Instead of reliving the memories the two of you shared over these anchors, try not to think about your ex. If you must, think of their negative aspects. This way, instead of day-dreaming about your ex and missing them, you’ll begin to like them less and less. Next time you’re at that restaurant, think of the annoying way they used to chew, for example.
Take a break. Instead of subjecting yourself to that same special song over and over, or nightly dinners at that restaurant, take a break. Many of us simply think about anything and everything related to an ex after a break-up. Don’t do this. Give yourself a break, or you’ll never get over your ex. Push thoughts of your ex out of your mind, and over time it will get easier. But time won’t help if you go on day-dreaming.
Don’t indulge the heartache. It’s tempting to suppress feelings for your ex altogether after a break-up, but it doesn’t help. Neither does focusing on those feelings repeatedly. Don’t rub salt in your wounds, or wallow in how bad you feel. While experiencing these emotions is normal, if you continue to indulge them, you’re actually clinging to your ex instead of letting go. It embeds them in your heart, making it difficult to uproot them later.
Feel the emotions, then release. It hurts, and you’re allowed to feel that. But if you lift the anchors, stop the day dreams, and try to move beyond the pain, things will improve. These emotions will fade away, like a movie seen long ago, if you don’t keep thinking about it. If you keep thinking about it, you feed it, prolonging its life. The best time to move on is right now. Your life is waiting!

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