Despite the studies proving online dating’s success and the ways you can hack it to work for you, some people just aren’t convinced. There’s a persistent complaint we hear over and over again. Online dating sucks. But does it, really? Maybe there are ways to improve the biggest problems people face that make them think online dating sucks. Let’s take a look:
- You can keep messaging forever, making meeting in person pretty awkward. While it may be easier for many of us to make a first move online, it’s not so straight-forward. Spending too much time messaging back and forth without meeting each other in person could ruin your potential relationship forever. It’s incredibly easy to form an impression of others when we’re just communicating online, which could make things rather jarring when you finally meet in person. Maybe they don’t look exactly like their photo or their personality doesn’t come across the same way in person. Either way, there’s a good chance they won’t match up to your expectations. But that doesn’t mean online dating sucks! Set a time limit on how long you’ll chat with someone without meeting in person. If chatting extends beyond that, it might be time to give up on that match. You’re more likely to make a positive first impression after 3 weeks of chatting than you would after 6 weeks.
- You may have just accidentally rejected your soulmate. We’ve all been there. After mindlessly swiping, you find someone who really catches your fancy. But you accidentally swiped left, hit next, or however your dating site rejects someone. Whether you were just rejecting on autopilot or you hit the wrong button entirely, there’s nothing worse than realizing you could’ve lost your perfect match forever. (Luckily, 50more allows premium users to un-hide introductions, so you can get a second chance!)
- You don’t know if you can trust the algorithms. You’ve been on a few dates with people you’ve met online, and they’ve all gone terribly. Aren’t there algorithms that are supposed to connect you to someone who’s a good match? Of course! But they don’t always work. Sometimes people share similar interests that might suggest they’d make a good match, but they’re totally different in other ways. So, sure, the algorithms aren’t always 100% perfect, but that doesn’t mean that online dating sucks! It might just mean you should tweak your preferences (or your profile), so you can match with someone better suited for you. Because matching people successfully is so important to 50more, we’ve created our own unique system to help introduce people to matches they’ll actually get along with.
Is there some reason you think online dating sucks? Let us know which features you wish were different!