Have you ever thought all men are the same? Many of us have had moments where we wonder if all men are cheaters or all men are assholes. But the truth is that not all men are the same. If they were, how can some of us find happiness in love, while others don’t? You may just feel like all men are the same because you keep pursuing the same type of man. Instead of blaming all men for your disappointments, there are things you can do to find someone who’s different.
Try going for a different type. We tend to choose men through specific characteristics like looks, lifestyles, social circles, life goals, intelligence, empathy, and personality.
Looks. Fortunately, looks are likely the least of your troubles. Your relationships are probably not failing because someone is short or tall or has great eyebrows. It may not be easy to pursue men whose looks don’t line up with your tastes. After all, there’s a reason certain things turn us on while others don’t. Short, tall, dark, light, heavy, thin — we all have a “type.” But if you’ve been dating men who are similar and it hasn’t been working for you, try something new. It might take some adjusting to find yourself physically attracted to someone different, but there is beauty there. You just have to find it.
Lifestyles. Sometimes relationships don’t work out and it’s not because either person did anything wrong. Whenever two people are living completely different lifestyles, the relationship will always struggle. One of you will have to make sacrifices to your lifestyle in order to make things work. You shouldn’t have to put yourself in that situation though, because eventually you’ll find you’re unhappy. Find someone who enjoys the same activities you do or someone who is as driven and goal-oriented as you.
Personality. We usually find ourselves drawn to specific personality types. Whether you prefer a social butterfly or someone who keeps to himself, you may only feel that way because you haven’t given the other side a try. Does it really make any sense to pursue a relationship with a man so similar to the man you’ve just broken up with? It’s this type of behavior that leads so many of us to think that all men are the same.
Not every guy will cheat, or fear commitment, or disrespect you, or break your heart. But if you keep dating the same types of men, ignoring the red flags and thinking all men are the same, you’ll continue to find yourself single and broken-hearted. Take a chance on someone different — you might just find true love.