Nostalgia can sometimes make us look back on the “good ol’ days” with rose-colored glasses. It’s easy to think back to how great everything was, overlooking all the terrible things about them. A lot has changed since those days, and much of it for the better. But that doesn’t mean everything about those days should be forgotten. We’re not saying we should all go back to those “good ol’ days,” but there’s something to be said for old-fashioned date moves. In our rush to move beyond the negative aspects of the past, we may have left some wonderful things behind. These old-fashioned date moves are the types of things your date will always appreciate:
- Spending time alone with someone. That means turn off your phone and focus on who you’re with! Wouldn’t it be amazing if you could go on a date someone and enjoy their company? To just connect with someone without the distractions of work emails and group texts interfering incessantly? Let’s push our gadgets aside and spend some time with people. The gadgets will still be there after, so enjoy your date!
- Being totally clear. Maybe it’s just us, but things seemed so much clearer back in the day. If someone asked you out, you knew they were interested. If they took it to the next step and asked you to go steady, you knew what that meant. These days, someone could message you endlessly on a dating app without ever trying to meet. Someone could go on a fabulous date with you and then never message you again. We’d do just about anything to get clarity, even if it means finding out that someone just isn’t so into us.
- Holding the door for your date. As women get older, they place a stronger emphasis on their desire for a man who is a gentleman. There’s no easier way to show your date you’re a gentleman than opening the door for them. Whether it’s your car door or the door to a restaurant, take the time to prove to your date that you’re chivalrous and caring. It’s easy to do, and it’ll mean a lot.
- Walking your date to (and from) the door. Remember when your father would complain that your date merely honked his car’s horn to announce his presence? We finally understand what he was on about. It’s so much more special to have someone pick you up from your doorstep (and walk to you back to it, after a date). No more of this “I’m outside” texting business or the dreaded horn. That small effort can make quite a big difference in how your date feels.
- Bringing flowers for your date. Whenever we visit a friend’s house, we bring a little something to show them that we care and appreciate their hospitality. The same gesture is just as lovely when you’re on a date. It’s kind, thoughtful, and it’ll make you memorable. We know that, as they get older, men and women increasingly value a partner who is loving and romantic. What better way to demonstrate your loving, romantic nature than a simple sign of affection? *Remember: just because you bring a gift does not mean you’re entitled to anything after the date. Which brings us to…
- Waiting for intimacy. People seem to rush into intimacy with partners much faster nowadays. That’s not necessarily a bad thing, but one old-fashioned date technique that never hurts? Waiting until both you and your partner are totally ready and comfortable with each other before having sex, kissing, or even holding hands. Your date will appreciate your patience, and it’ll show that you truly value them for who they are.